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Cathy Burnham Martin
Screaming and repeating lies makes them neither true nor more believable.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Direct lies, small lies, huge lies, and lies of omission… these are all self-serving and sources of self-destruction.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Most single people are sick of married people presenting themselves as both available and interested, when indeed they are merely playing. Oh, yeah… and cheating. Gee, that is attractive. Not! Others could not care less what someone's marital status might be.
Cathy Burnham Martin
There is tremendous trauma in the betrayal caused by a perpetual liar as they repeatedly commit psychological abuse.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Extra-marital affairs become things of legend… and often the undoing of legends… and mere mortals.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Actively repeating a lie or denial does not make it true.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don't love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.
Cathy Burnham Martin
When we resort to screaming at someone, we are revealing weakness and a sense of helplessness. If we can't seem to get our message or feelings across any other way, then we get angry, and we get loud!
Cathy Burnham Martin
If someone yells at me, they are not expressing love. They may be threatening me. They may be expressing great frustration with me. They may simply be trying to control my behavior. However, they are not communicating love.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Without trust, our relationships lack an essential ingredient for emotional intimacy. We need to be able to totally trust our partner with our deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and secrets.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Sexy is a decision. We decide that our spouse looks sexy to us. Period. It doesn't matter our age or how long we've been together.
Cathy Burnham Martin
It matters little which party has gotten lazy about delivering what their partner craves. It doesn't take too many days or weeks for an unsatisfied partner to start to feel love-starved and sadly unfulfilled. If you want great sex in the bedroom, show love to each other outside the bedroom.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Some people think that it's okay to be downright nasty to people they love. It is not okay. Nasty is never called for, and it's certainly not sweet, useful, nor positive.
Cathy Burnham Martin
In truth, if it isn't to save your life when it's in imminent danger, someone yelling at you is just plain wrong. The same is true for ranting or bitching. The same goes double for anything even close to manhandling.
Cathy Burnham Martin
If a man or a woman starts expecting sex, then it is no longer special, and a lover will likely start to feel used.
Cathy Burnham Martin
When we make the decisions to be and stay in love, we should also make a decision and commitment to be supportive.
Cathy Burnham Martin
If we are sharing challenges and concerns, laughter and life stories, dreams and dramas with someone other than our mate, we are making precious, intimate connections with someone other than our mate. We need to keep not only physical, but emotional and intellectual connections strong and active with our beloved.
Cathy Burnham Martin
We would not want the joy of physical and sexual intimacy to fade after years together. We need to also remember to keep our intellectual and emotional intimacy every bit as sacred.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Should we expect our physical, sexual, intellectual, and emotional intimacies to automatically continue throughout a marriage? Nope. At least, not in my opinion. But I do think we should be able to expect both partners to protect and preserve the sanctity of these intimacies. That, to me, is part of honest loyalty.
Cathy Burnham Martin
We never want to be taken for granted, but our partners should be able to expect our honest loyalty. That is a powerfully strong foundation block for a relationship. I want to meet the greatest expectations, without being the greatest fraud.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Past misdeeds must only serve as a reference point in calm conversation about lessons learned or actions that taught us to behave better. They should never be bantered about with sarcasm, anger, or nastiness.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Appreciation and respect are mutual needs. We may be wired differently as men and women, but some needs are parallel human needs.
Cathy Burnham Martin
It takes a strong woman to tolerate a weak man. That said, it takes a strong man to tolerate a weak woman, too.
Cathy Burnham Martin
I think we need to develop a powerful dose of tolerance to understand each other's humanness. None of us is perfect.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Irritatingly angry people have no sense of humor when wearing their angry pants.
Cathy Burnham Martin
When it comes to people… you could aptly say that I am a racist… a human racist. I believe in people. There are good and not-so-good people of all colors and creeds. I'm not here to judge. Period. As people, we draw judgments from others when we behave badly, especially when we try to blame our bad behavior on others. This is not based on race, age, sex, or religion. It's based on behavior differences.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Liars are highly unlikely to admit their lies, never mind apologize for the hurt they've caused. Liars don't genuinely apologize. Deceit has become their full-out lifestyle. They are centered on themselves with no thoughts of the consequences of their lies. In cowardly style, they tell more lies to try and cover their tracks. They are not good at admitting they actually have shortcomings.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Adding more bull to bull yields bigger bull.
Cathy Burnham Martin
I can only imagine that future generations will consider us to have been barbaric for our intolerance of differences.
Cathy Burnham Martin
It matters not which partner is bringing negativity into conversations and exchanges. Toxicity has no place at all between people who have promised to love each other.
Cathy Burnham Martin
We could choose to celebrate our differences, rather than over-analyze them. This might help us become more realistic about the generalizations to which we subscribe. For example, consider this. If women are the overemotional ones, why do so many bar fights break out between men? Such brawls do not spring from logical, calm places.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Trust means that they will never throw our pain and vulnerabilities in our face. Trust means we know they will protect us and our innermost thoughts and shared feelings without question.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Societies that have condoned male cheating and condemned female cheating are simply male-dominated cultures. Cheating is cheating, no matter who is doing it. It's wrong.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Apologies require taking full responsibility. No half-truths, no partial admissions, no rationalizations, no finger pointing, and no justifications belong in any apology.
Cathy Burnham Martin
We may repeatedly try to get our need for sex or our need for communication met by our partner. If our attempts are met with rejection over and over again, we may eventually stop asking. We tend to give up rather than keep setting ourselves up for regular rejection.
Cathy Burnham Martin
Unconditional love takes a strong and deliberate evolution. Unconditional love is way beyond emotional involvement. This is loving the person inside the person… loving their very soul.
Cathy Burnham Martin
We will remember the hurt, the injustice, and the trauma, but we can forgive the sinner.